<< Asian Dating Articles Homepage <<
Dear Charmine,
I'm so disappointed. I have this friend that I've known platonically for about ten years. He, lives in a different city in Philippines (Cebu) and recently he, was in Manila for work, so we met for date dinner. All of a sudden it felt like we were on a date. He was completely flirting with me. He even said to me as he was checking me out, "So, what, you're working the whole 'model thing' now?" (That's flirting, right?) We both agreed that we should get together again soon. Well, Charmine, I'm disappointed because it's been two weeks and he hasn't called me.
Can I call him? He might be nervous about turning the friendship into romance.
Can't I give him a nudge now? Isn't that what friends are for?
Jazz
Manila, Philippines
From the desk of Charmine Moreno:
Dear Jazz of Manila,
Two weeks is two weeks, except when it's ten years an two weeks. That's how long ago he decided whether or not he could date a model or a girl who looks like one. Can you be a pal and give him a nudge? Nudge away, friendster-but watch how fast that nudge doesn't get a return phone call. And if your dinner/date did feel different to him, it's been two weeks and he's had time to think about it and decide, he's just not that into you. Here's the truth: Guys don't mind a friendship if it could lead to sex, whether it be
a "fuck buddy" situation or a meaningful romance. Go find lives in Manila who will be rocked to the conversation and model looks.
Charmine's personal opinion:
I hate to tell you, but that whole "I don't want to ruin the friendship" excuse is a racket. It works so well because it seems so wise. Sex could mess up a friendship. Unfortunately, in the entire history of mankind, that excuse has never ever been used by someone who actually means it. If we're really excited about someone, we can't stop ourselves-we want
more. If we're friends with someone and attracted to them, we're going to want to take it further. And please, don't tell. me he's just "scared." The only thing he's scared of-and I say this with a lot of love-is how not attracted to you he is.
<< Asian Dating Articles Homepage <<
|
